Letting Go and Forgiving Others
Learning to let go and forgive is an act of love towards yourself. But that doesn’t mean it is an easy thing to do.
Small transgressions are easy to forgive and forget. But then there are the big things you may feel the need to cling to. In these tough situations, there are techniques that you can use to let go and find peace finally.
Learning to Forgive
It's important to learn to forgive. Holding onto grudges or resentments only hurts you. It can lead to bad moods, depression, or even health conditions. When you hold onto pain, you allow a situation to burden your future.
Forgiveness is the right choice to make and it doesn't mean that you've forgotten what has happened. You might even still hold someone else accountable for the wrong. With forgiveness, you're simply deciding to move on with your life.
While you might not ever completely forget the pain, you'll still be able to live your daily life without it. And when you see the person who has wronged you, you won't immediately think of or bring up the situation.
How to Forgive
There's no set rule on how you should approach forgiveness. However, you may know deep down when it's time tine. When you realize that you've been replaying a situation in your head repeatedly, it's time to let it go and forgive.
To forgive, you also need to allow a change in your life. Find the compassion within to make peace with the past. You'll feel the difference in your heart as you let the resentment go and make room for positive feelings
This can be especially difficult if the person you're dealing with seems resistant to change or doesn't care about your feelings. In this situation, remember that you're searching for peace for yourself. It isn't about making the other person feel better; it's about making you feel better.
Letting Go
Once you've found it in your heart to forgive, it's time to work on letting go. This step can be so difficult, yet it's the most important. Letting go means that you're not fighting battles in your mind anymore.
One way to let go is to adopt the attitude of a present moment thinker or forward thinker. You'll want to spend as much time as you can truly experiencing life in the moment.
Problems are likely to occur when the past and negative thinking creep up. When this happens, do whatever is in your power to ease your mind. As time goes by, you’ll find that things get easier to deal with when it comes to forgiveness situations.
Remember that letting go is the best thing you can do for yourself. You don't enjoy holding onto anger and resentment, so why continue? Ask yourself if those feelings are serving a purpose for you. Then choose to forgive.
